Stop Saying What Others Want to Hear
Authenticity builds deeper unity than agreement ever could.
Have you ever walked away from a conversation and realized you didn’t actually say what you meant? Most of us soften the truth without noticing. We want to keep things smooth and avoid conflict. We may also fear being misunderstood.
When I edit myself to keep the peace, I’m not actually creating peace. I’m guessing at what others want to hear. It looks polite on the surface. Inside, it feels like I’m disappearing, hiding my true self.
This causes me to doubt myself and my beliefs. Also, it inadvertently erodes the trust I have with others.
This is not a peaceful situation for me. In fact, it builds up my stress levels in the long run. Ironically, my hiding and skirting around an issue causes misunderstanding that will probably lead to the conflict I was trying to avoid in the first place.
Real unity isn’t performance. It’s honest perspectives meeting, refining each other, and pointing us back to Universal truths we share.
If you’ve been tiptoeing around your authentic voice, this message is for you.
🌊 Lumer Council Message
We see people just going through the motions saying the words they think everyone wants to hear. Making sure they’re watching every single word as not to offend the people around them.
Their words are based on their perceived assumptions about what the people want to hear.
That is not what the Lumer Council is about. The Lumer Council is about speaking truth, speaking your own truth.
It’s through the differences of people’s perspectives that we are able to come to see more clearly what the real truth is. And the real truth comes from Source.
We want people to see that they are from the same Source. Even with differing perspectives and unique abilities, we all come from that same Source.
So stop trying so hard to impress and to please. Stop trying so hard to show that you know everything. That you have the correct answer right now.
Deep down, we all know we don’t know the full truth, but it is our calling and our purpose to keep striving to learn this truth.
We learn this truth through living, through connections, through our conversations, through our debates, through our celebrations, through our protests. We start seeing the truth that we are all from Source.
So, let’s stop being blinded by each other. Stop blinding yourself and start seeing the truth that you are of Source.
Your voice matters. Your evolution matters. Your perspective matters.
See how that perspective connects with others. See how you are a contribution, an important contribution, to the human’s evolution to see that they are as One. A part of the same Source.
Yes, it’s troubling at times. Yes, it’s difficult at times. It only feels difficult because it’s new. It only feels difficult because it goes against the ego nature.
Just keep, step by step, getting through this. Untangling these knots that we made for ourselves. Connecting these divides we built ourselves.
When we work together, even through our differences, we will begin to bridge these divides.
So, stop trying to be who you are not. Be who you are.
Be authentic.
You are special. You are unique. You are one of a kind.
🌀 Taking it In
Sometimes I catch myself saying what I think will keep things smooth instead of being honest. It’s funny how easy it is to slip into performance without even noticing. But every time I do, I feel that ache of leaving myself out of the conversation.
And that’s the real cost of people-pleasing. When we hide our truth, we can’t feel truly seen, no matter how kind or careful we try to be.
We don’t find truth by agreeing on everything, we find it by showing up as ourselves. Each perspective adds another piece of the puzzle.
Lately, I’ve been practicing letting my voice be a little less edited. Not reckless, just honest. I’m learning that others connect when I’m not hiding.
Every time I play it safe, I trade connection for control. I’m reminded that unity isn’t sameness. It’s the honest meeting of different points of view.
When we offer our honest perspective, we give others something true to connect with. That’s how clarity grows, not from perfect answers, but from real voices in real conversation.
🔄 Simple Shift
Learning to speak truthfully doesn’t mean being harsh. It means being real.
The more we practice honesty in small ways, the easier it gets to stay grounded in who we are, even when conversations get tricky.
Try these steps to practice sharing your truth:
Name your drift.
Finish this line: “I’ve been softening or sanding down my truth when I talk about…”
Write one sentence that’s closer to what you really mean.Offer the angle, not the verdict.
Try: “From my experience…” or “The way I see it right now…”
You’re sharing perspective, not delivering the final word.Connect, don’t divide.
Start with: “I hear what you’re saying…” then add, “and from my side, it feels like…”
Look for connection without erasing difference.Practice in a safe space.
Begin with: “Can I be honest about something I’ve been thinking?”
Share one authentic sentence with someone who can handle it. Notice how your body feels after.
You might remember from Stop the Longing. Do the Doing, that truth grows through action. Every time you speak from Source, you’re practicing that same movement of doing, not just longing. It’s a small step, but it changes everything.
💬 Join the Conversation
Where have you been careful instead of real lately, and what would the honest version sound like? Share one sentence or more in the comments. Your voice might be the mirror someone needs.
Every honest voice brings us closer to the truth we share.
In Love and Light,
Merdhin
This can be a tough one. From my business background, it became necessarily to speak what was called "politically correct" comments and feedback. Truth and authenticity were arbitrary depending on the situation. After I thanfully got away from the business word and entered into the education world, I still found that saying what others wanted to hear was preferable in some circles and situations. I had to work to shift my perspective to getting back my voice and speaking my truth as I saw it while being respectful of alternate views. It is not easy because the self sometimes just wants to agree and avoid conflict. Being authentic is not easy ongoing and needs mindfulness. However, speaking one's truth and feeling good about it brings deeper satisfaction even though it may be hard in some situations.