Joy starts when you stop auditioning for approval.
For those ready to stop performing and start living.
I’ve been thinking about how exhausting it is to live like you’re being watched which comes with the subtle pressure to be the “right” version of yourself in every situation. The version that’s likable. Reasonable. Spiritual in the approved way. Easy to understand. Easy to agree with.
This is how I was raised. I had to be the best version to make my parents proud. I had to live the perfect spiritual life not only to avoid the fiery pits of hell, but also not besmirch the family name.
A lot of us learned that this is maturity. Or professionalism. Or “being a good person.” But if I’m honest, it often feels like a never-ending, never good enough audition. And it is exhausting.
This Lumer Council message doesn’t accuse us of having bad intentions with our performative actions. It says the opposite. It assumes the intentions are good, and then asks whether the process is costing us our true selves.
Because true joy isn’t the reward for performing correctly. True joy is what shows up when you’re able to be your true self.
🌊 Lumer Council Message
🎙️You can also watch the live session: Lemurian Channeling 🌊 For anyone tired of keeping up appearances
Welcome. We are the Lumer Council of the Lemurian Collective. And we are so happy to be here with you and we are grateful that you’re here with us.
Today’s message is one that we hope and desire comes across as heartfelt. It is not meant to judge. It is not meant to demean at all.
It is meant to bring harmony into our lives. It is meant to bring harmony, especially among the human race, because you are so close to evolving. Some of you have already started the process, and this is a wonderful thing. We are here to help you through this process. However, some of you...
Your intentions are good. Your intentions are spot on, but the processes are taking you back two steps as you go forward one.
However, we do not want to demean your intentions. As we said, your intentions are wonderful. Your intentions are true.
So we want to help you just slow down, and take a deep breath in, and release the need to perform.
We are not here to judge, nor is anyone else judging you. In fact, you may not even notice this. There are many others who are listening to you, listening to your words, listening to your actions. For it’s through your actions that your faith is shown. It’s through your actions that you become true, that you become your true self.
If they are your actions, your actions speak so much loudly than words. You know this. But do you believe it?
We’re not talking performative actions. We’re not talking the actions that are expected of you in your society.
For those of you that feel like you have to act in a certain way to please certain people to be in that certain position, you’re not happy with that.
Some of you may even have some monetary success with this, but it’s not lasting. And the true happiness is not there with you, not quite yet.
Your happiness will come. Your true joy, in fact joy is the better word than happiness. True joy is when you are one with yourself and you love yourself and you are content with being with yourself no matter what circumstances there are, even if you’re in a crowded room that’s loud and noisy.
If you can still be comfortable with yourself, as yourself, that is true joy. That is true abundance.
So hear us when we say, we love you. We love you as you. You are with us as part of the Source, the Source of all.
And if that’s true, which we know it is, you are not a mistake. You are not an aberration.
You are special. You are unique. You are needed. You are important.
Join us. Not joining us as a group. Join us as part of the Source in making an impact on your society. To help yourself and then others to evolve to the higher Consciousness, the higher Consciousness of true self.
In Love and Light.
🌀 Taking it In
“Performing” isn’t always obvious. Sometimes it looks like being responsible. Being agreeable. Being spiritual. Being helpful. Being the version of yourself that gets the least friction from the room.
And the tricky part is that it can start with good intentions. Real ones.
But the cost shows up later. When your body is tense for no reason. When your words feel rehearsed. Or when you go home and realize you didn’t actually feel like yourself all day.
The line that keeps echoing for me is simple: release the need to perform.
Not because effort is bad. Not because growth is fake. But because there’s a difference between evolving and auditioning.
True joy, the kind they describe, is not a mood you chase. It’s what’s left when you stop abandoning yourself.
And that’s why they call it abundance.
🌱 SimpleShift
The “Is this mine?” check
Before you speak, post, explain, or apologize, ask: Is this coming from me, or from the version of me I think they’ll accept?
No shame if it’s the second one. Just notice it. Each time, you will begin to notice patterns and be able to adjust accordingly.
Join the Conversation
Where do you notice “performing” showing up most in your life right now?
If you feel moved to share, leave a comment. I read them, and I genuinely want to know what this brings up for you.
Test the Shift 10% at a Time
If you practiced this and it truly helped, try a “10% give-back” experiment.
Name what you gained (steadiness, clarity, relief, momentum).
Give back 10% of that value today.
You can pass it forward to someone else, or, if the shift created something tangible for you, you’re welcome to give 10% through Buy Me a Coffee.
I’m truly grateful for any support you choose to give.
True joy is not something you earn. It’s what you remember when you stop performing.
In Love and Light,
Merdhin
I really like this focus. Growing into the true Self is not easy. We want to be accepted and to please. I had to do that much of my younger life until rebelled and acted as someone else. I realized at one point I had no idea who that other self was. Expectations are all around us and we are expected to perform at work, in a relationship, in our community, etc. Finding our true Self can be like navigating a maze - wrong turns. misguided paths, etc. When we get the courage to stop and reflect and take on the focus "I have nothing to prove - I am beautiful as I am" - then we can start to recognize and embrace our beauty for who we truly are - regardless of whether we conform or not. This process and development could take a lifetime. Of course, there are behaviors that we need to maintain to get along in society to an extent, but that does not mean that we have to be someone we are not comfortable with. I am currently working through exercises and meditations of loving myself and appreciating with love who I am with no judgement or " I shoulds". We all can practice self love and appreciation of ourselves a little each day. Being genuine does bring joy. When I tell a friend "I love you" with no conditions or limited implications - just genuine heartfelt love - that brings me joy because I know it comes from my heart and soul. Embracing our true Self means we do not give in to judging ourselves. I accept who I am and love that I do not have to perform or be someone I am not. I wish everyone to find joy in self love.
This is something I’ve thought of recently in my life.
My mom used to tell me to “be nice and respect your grandpa” which really meant just let him treat you however he will and smile.
It was with good intention. My mom would add “he’s old, doesn’t know better, etc.”
But now I realize I wasn’t being myself around him. Even now, I’ve “performed” for so long, it’s difficult to change that around him. I’m still figuring it out.