Why I Stopped Saying Thank You
Dropping two little words increases abundance.
We’re taught from childhood to say “thank you.” It’s polite. It’s expected.
You say it to the barista who hands you your morning coffee. To the coworker who holds the door. To the friend who checks in to make sure you’re okay.
But sometimes, “thank you” feels more like something we’re supposed to say than something we actually feel.
It’s polite, sure, but it also changes the focus. A gift is meant for the receiver, yet those two words often hand the moment right back to the giver. Suddenly it’s not about receiving, it’s about reassuring the giver that we noticed their generosity.
When that happens, the real exchange gets interrupted. The connection, the energy between giving and receiving, gets lost in the performance of manners.
🌊 Lumer Council Message
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There’s no giver or receiver. We are connected. That’s why there’s no need to say thank you.
We feel appreciation for it together. We appreciate you. You appreciate us. We appreciate together.
Much appreciation is a good phrase to use. Much gratefulness. We are grateful.
When you say that to us, you say it with us. When we say it to you, we say it with you.
We are grateful. We are appreciative. We appreciate you. You appreciate us. All simultaneously.
We appreciate. This is a concept that is foreign to many humans. It’s not transactional. It’s non-transactional in the sense when one gives, it’s not giving, it’s sharing.
There’s no desire to get back. If you give expecting payment back, that is not giving, that’s selling.
When you take and you feel the guilt to give back, you turned a gift into a product that’s sold.
Be appreciative. When you do give, give freely, nothing in return. Give because of the connection.
Do not give out of guilt. Do not give because you think it’s required of you. Do not give to be seen and honored.
Give through connection.
When you give money to the person on the street, don’t look around to see what people’s reactions are. Don’t even consider the reaction of the person on the street. Give for that connection.
The blessing will flow through the symbol of what you gave, whether it’s a dollar. A dollar is just a symbol. Behind that symbol is the energy, the energy of true giving.
That energy will transmit through the symbol to the receiver. The receiver may or may not keep that symbol, may or may not even understand the energy. That is not for you to worry about.
You gave. You’re giving of the energy. You’re giving through light. You’re giving through connection.
🌀 Taking it In
Think about the last time someone did something kind for you. Did you let yourself fully receive it, or did you rush to even the balance?
Something shifts when we stop trying to “repay” kindness. When someone gives from the heart, our job isn’t to hurry the exchange. It’s to let them feel the blessing of giving.
A simple thank you can sometimes cut that short. It’s well-meant, but it pushes the energy back, like saying, “Okay, now it’s my turn to give to you.”
What if instead we just receive? What if we allow the giver to feel the fullness of their generosity?
There are other ways to express appreciation without closing the moment:
“I really appreciate this.”
“Your gift means a lot to me.”
“I feel so grateful you did this.”
Each one keeps the focus on the gift itself, not on returning the gesture.
When we stay open long enough to receive without guilt and without reflex, we create space for connection to complete itself.
That’s the real gratitude. That’s where abundance flows.
🔄 SimpleShift
Here are three ways to practice giving and receiving without turning it into a transaction. Try one or all of them. Choose what feels right for you.
1. The One-Way Gift
Do something kind for someone anonymously.
Leave a flower on a doorstep, pay for the next person’s coffee, or drop a kind note where a stranger might find it. No name, no credit, no “thank you” expected.
Notice what happens when generosity doesn’t circle back to you.
2. The Heartfelt Receive
When someone gives you something—a compliment, help, a small gift—pause before you reply. Make eye contact, smile, and breathe. Let yourself really receive it before speaking.
Then, if it feels right, say something more personal than thank you:
“That means a lot to me.”
“I really appreciate that.”
“You made my day.”
These phrases keep the focus on the gift itself rather than shifting attention back to the giver.
3. The Energy Exchange
Hold something small in your hands such as a coin, a stone, a leaf.
Imagine it glowing with appreciation or love. Then leave it somewhere someone will find it, without worrying who or when.
That’s giving through connection, not obligation.
💬 Join the Conversation
This message is about giving through connection, not transaction.
How do you practice that in your daily life with friends, family, or strangers?
Your story might be exactly what someone else needs to hear.
May your giving and receiving always return you to shared abundance.
I’m very grateful and honored you are here,
Merdhin
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